The paradox of forgiveness assumes that if you are culpable for what you did and deserve to be punished and not forgiven, then you are always culpable for what you did.
Abstract: The dilemma of divine forgiveness suggests it is unreasonable to be comforted by the thought that God forgives acts that injure human victims. A plausible response to the dilemma claims that the comfort derives from the belief that God's forgiveness releases the wrongdoer from punishment for her misdeed.
Forgiveness is quite another matter. If we are to forgive, our resentment is to be overcome not by denying ourselves the right to that resentment, but by endeavouring to view the wrongdoer with compassion, benevolence and love while recognizing that he has wilfully abandoned his right to them.
There are barriers to forgiveness. Sometimes people are not ready to forgive because they fear being hurt again. It can be helpful to consider the benefits of forgiveness and realize those benefits are for you, not for someone else. Forgiveness does not mean condoning another's bad behavior.
Particular personality characteristics of the offending person can protect him/her from feeling guilty or responsible, for example: self-centeredness, blurred boundaries, lack of self-awareness, possessiveness, inability to take responsibility for one's own feelings and behavior, tendency to misinterpret other peoples' ...
Additionally, we can live out the Golden Rule by forgiving others as we would like to be forgiven. This means letting go of grudges and resentment, extending a hand of reconciliation, and seeking restoration in relationships.
The Stoics recognize that forgiveness is a powerful antidote for anger and there is a connection between the Stoic advice to remove anger and their exhortations to forgive each other.
In Platonic justice there are no amnesties, only expiation; there is no forgiveness, only forgivingness. There is a benevolent willingness to understand how it is that people cannot help doing bad things, because they are ignorant or irrational, or are overwhelmed by untamed or negative forces within them.
In Buddhist psychology, forgiveness is understood as a way to end suffering, to bring dignity and harmony to our life. Forgiveness is fundamentally for our own sake, for our own mental health. It is a way to let go of the pain we carry.
FORGIVENESS IS NOT MAKING AN EXCUSE FOR SOMEONE
Forgiveness is not a downgrade. Forgiveness does not reclassify an offense from a “sin” to a “mistake.” Mistakes are excused. Sins are forgiven. Forgiveness inherently classifies an offense at the top level of wrongness.
In particular, the tendency to express forgiveness may lead offenders to feel free to offend again by removing unwanted consequences for their behavior (e.g., anger, criticism, rejection, loneliness) that would otherwise discourage reoffending.
Researchers have reported that forgiveness is the replacement of negative unforgiving emotions with positive emotions, positive affect, self-esteem, and it fosters compassion and positive responses to the offender [30,31].
Research suggests that it can be hard to forgive someone if they are continuously reliving those memories, are scared of trusting again or believe that they would become vulnerable to more hurt if they forgive.
As a result, Aristotle rejects forgiveness as positively vicious. Aristotle's response to the tension is to reject forgiveness as positively vicious since it involves accepting less than what one deserves.
Sin is an inevitable reality of mortal experience and respresents a paradox: although sin should always be shunned, it nonetheless plays a necessary part in our spiritual growth and progress.
Quote by Albert Einstein: “Weak people revenge. Strong people forgive.
“Education is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.” ~ Aristotle “All knowledge should be subject to examination and reason.” ~Aristotle “Man is a political being.” ~Aristotle “We are what we do repeatedly. Separate him from law and justice and he is the worst.”
In Taoism, forgiveness is an important step on the path towards a better life and and moving towards enlightenment.
Similarly, the Stoics divide vice into foolishness, injustice, cowardice, intemperance, and the rest.
Stoicism follows Heraclitus and believes in one Logos; Christianity follows Jesus, and requires followers to believe in the one true God and have no other gods before him [her].
Forgiveness is therefore a dyadic relation involving a wrongdoer and a wronged party, and is thought to be a way in which victims of wrongdoing alter both their and a wrongdoer's status by, for instance, acknowledging yet moving past a moral transgression.
The highest form of forgiveness is to realise that the other committed a mistake out of ignorance, and having a sense of compassion for them. Forgiving others with a sense of compassion is the best form of forgiveness.
The second question: What is this sin that is beyond forgiveness? Again verse 29: “Whoever blasphemes against the Holy Spirit never has forgiveness.” The unforgivable sin is blasphemy against the Holy Spirit.
Responsibility: Accept what has happened and show yourself compassion. Remorse: Use guilt and remorse as a gateway to positive behaviour change. Restoration: Make amends with whomever you're forgiving, even if it's yourself. Renewal: Learn from the experience and grow as a person.