If an ex-partner is repeatedly coming to your house uninvited, take immediate steps to ensure your safety by setting firm boundaries, documenting every incident, and involving law enforcement. Clearly state once (in writing) that they are not allowed on the property, change locks if necessary, install security cameras, and file a police report to initiate a restraining order.
Harassment by an ex involves any repeated, unwanted behavior intended to annoy, alarm, or distress you, including persistent unwanted contact (calls, texts, DMs), stalking (showing up at your home/work), threats, spreading rumors, character assassination, using children as leverage, or any actions that make you feel unsafe or controlled, with the key being the intent to cause distress and the repeated nature of the actions.
Next time he shows up unwanted, don't open the door to him, call the police and get a restraining order.
The "3-3-3 Rule" for breakups isn't a single, universal guideline but often refers to either a recovery timeline (3 days intense grief, 3 weeks reflection, 3 months rebuilding) or a dating check-in (evaluating after 3 dates, 3 weeks, 3 months). It provides a simple structure for processing emotions or assessing a new relationship's potential, though experts caution against rigid timelines, emphasizing personalized healing and self-awareness over clock-watching.
Exclusive Occupancy Order
Sometimes one party can obtain a sole occupancy order requiring the other party to leave the home. The Court can make what is called an Exclusive Occupancy Order of the house for either spouse.
If you believe your life is being threatened and/or if the harassment continues or escalates, you might consider taking legal action. All states have laws against cyberstalking, and it could help to speak with a legal advocate about protective orders or other legal measures.
"Course of conduct" The following principles may assist when considering whether there is sufficient evidence of a course of conduct: The concept of harassment or stalking is linked to the course of conduct which amounts to it. The course of conduct must comprise two or more occasions: section 7(3) PHA 1997.
Co-parent harassment includes verbal abuse, excessive contact, and undermining the other parent, often involving insults, threats, constant calls/texts, badmouthing the ex to the kids, parental alienation, or interfering with parenting time/decisions, and it can range from subtle (late pickups, ignored messages) to overt (stalking, false reports). Key examples are name-calling, spreading rumors, using children as messengers, refusing communication, and making unilateral decisions about the child, all designed to control or distress the other parent.
You must serve a written eviction notice and let them know they have thirty (30) days to remove themselves from the residence. [i] Make sure you keep a record of how the written notice was communicated to your ex.
Police ask trick questions like "Do you know why I stopped you?" or "Can I search your car?" to get you to admit guilt or consent to searches, often using leading questions or seeming friendly to build rapport and gather evidence. Key tactics involve questioning your awareness of violations (speed, drinking) to get an admission and using double negatives ("Don't mind if I look, do you?") to confuse consent. The best approach is often to stay calm, politely decline to answer beyond basic identification, and clearly state you don't consent to searches.
The Landlord and Tenant Branch is eviction court, and you do not have to be a landlord to file a case to evict someone. You do not have to use the Landlord and Tenant Branch, but it is usually the fastest way to get a judgment to remove a person from your property.
The acts prohibit direct and indirect discrimination in employment on nine grounds: gender, marital status, family status, sexual orientation, religion, age, disability, race, and membership of the traveller community. They also prohibit sexual harassment, harassment or victimisation on these grounds.
Harassment becomes unlawful where 1) enduring the offensive conduct becomes a condition of continued employment, or 2) the conduct is severe or pervasive enough to create a work environment that a reasonable person would consider intimidating, hostile, or abusive.
You can report harassment to the police. They can charge someone with criminal harassment if: the person has harassed you more than once. the harassment made you feel distressed or alarmed.
To prove harassment, you need detailed records of incidents (dates, times, actions, witnesses), written communications (texts, emails), witness testimonies, and potentially physical evidence (photos, medical records), showing the conduct was unwelcome, severe/pervasive, and often based on a protected characteristic (race, sex, etc.) to create a hostile environment or as a condition of employment. Strong evidence includes recordings, documented reports to HR, and proof of adverse actions after reporting.
Block him on all communication platforms. If he continues reaching out or contacting you through your work, reach out to your local police department for guidance on how to proceed. Your safety and security are chief concerns in this situation.
The 3-6-9 rule in relationships is a guideline for pacing a new connection through three stages: the first three months are the honeymoon phase (infatuation, fun), the next three (months 3-6) involve the beginning of the conflict stage (seeing flaws, arguments), and the final three (months 6-9) are the decision-making stage (evaluating long-term potential), helping couples see past initial attraction to genuine compatibility before major commitments.
Yes, you can call the police to have someone removed from your home, especially if they are a guest who refuses to leave after you've withdrawn permission, making them a trespasser, but it's complicated if they have any claim as a tenant, and police are often reluctant to get involved in civil matters like evictions, directing you to the courts instead. Call police immediately for violence or threats, but for general refusal to leave, you must differentiate between a guest (police can help) and a tenant (requires formal eviction process) to avoid legal trouble yourself.
You should apply for a: 'non-molestation order' to protect you or your children from being harmed by your ex-partner. 'occupation order' to give you the right to stay in your home, get your ex-partner to leave and stop them coming back.